Playing hot and cold involves alternatively behaving as though you're very interested in and available to the other person and acting as though you don't give them a second thought. That, which has true value, takes work. Investment is closely related to compliancewhich is one of the three components of the SAC model of attraction similarity and arousal being the other two. If you set up a date with a girl and the date will be three or more days after the logistical text conversation, then check up on her between that conversation and the date. Raise your standards. There were a number of insightful, informative speakers there, but one message in particular stood out to me.
About the Author:
How to Understand the Chase in Dating
Sometimes it feels like you fight a losing battle. Molly Prather is a writer living in Los Angeles. All my current and former lovers count me as one of their best friends, if not their very best friend, and I frequently discuss a lot of deep relationship and social dynamic stuff with women. Some years ago, back when the real estate market in the United States was still a good one and I had a well-paying corporate job that left me flush with a lot of capital to invest in things, I took a weekend seminar in Washington, DC on investing in real estate and, in particular, in buying and flipping foreclosures. Not losing means you keep the kid gloves on, and skirt the friend zone and maybe even wade into it because you want to make sure you don't do anything too edgy that might lose you a girl